Hop Against Homophobia Blog Hop

Welcome to the Hop Against Homophobia Blog Hop!

I am sure there are a lot of people out there with very moving and personal stories about how they have battled against homophobia in their life.  Unfortunately, I am not one of them.  As a straight female I have not had to put up with many homophobic slurs against me, just a bit of name-calling in school when one girl or another decided they were bored with calling me fatso or four-eyes.  Mostly I ignored it since if they thought I was a lesbian then at least they weren’t trying to figure out who my latest crush was and humiliating me by telling him. 
So, why would I want to take a stand against homophobia?
Well, perhaps because bullying, in any form, is something we should all care about.  And that is exactly what homophobia is… bullying.
Bullying doesn’t always stop when you leave the school yard.  It’s found in work places, on housing estates, in your local pub or even on the bus. 

If you open your eyes you can see bullying every day in one form or another. But how many of us do?  Even more importantly how many of us speak up when we see bullying, and how many of us simply turn away and pretend we haven’t seen?

Unless all of us take a stand together things will never change and that is why I think it is important for everyone, including those who are heterosexual like myself, to show support against homophobia and help spread the word about the International Day Against Homophobia.  Because homophobia is one of the worst forms of bullying, at least in my opinion, because it can get worse after leaving the schoolyard.  Adults, who should know better, continue with this type of bullying without any thought to how much they can hurt someone.  Worse still, they often do it with the sanction of the church, the government and others in society who should be working to make things better for everyone, no matter who they chose to love.
The It Gets Better Project
One of the many organisations out there offering support for victims of bullying on the basis of sexual orientation is the It Gets Better Project.
I am sure many of you have seen one or more of the It Gets Better videos on You Tube or other similar sites.  They are made by a wide variety of people with the purpose of helping young people suffering from homophobic bullying get through the teen years.  

But did you know there is also an It Gets Better book?  Because not every teen has access to the internet to see the videos out there.  They aim to get 2500 copies of the book into schools and libraries and they are well on their way to achieving their goal.  And you – yes you! – can help them achieve that.

I will be donating $1 for each comment on this post to the It Gets Better Project with a minimum of $25 (which is the cost of one of the It Gets Better books).  I will round up any donation to the nearest $10.  I wish it could be more, but unless I get a lottery win some time soon I don’t see my bank account inflating overnight.  

The winner of my blog hop contest will also get the chance to get a copy of the It Gets Better book for a US school or library of their choice.  I realise that many visitors, like myself, will be international readers, and there does appear to be an option to let the site pick a school which can be used if you wish. 

To win a copy of the It Gets Better book for a US school or library (as well as one of the ebooks below for yourself) all you have to do is comment on this post.  Please remember to leave me a way of contacting you in case you are the winner.
Choice of prizes
Touch of a Ghost ebook (m/m)
Driving Me Crazy ebook (m/m)
Between Heaven & Hell ebook (m/m/m)

The winner will be chosen via random.org at the end of the blog hop which finishes on 20th May and contacted by email.  

See who else is hopping against homophobia here.

122 responses to “Hop Against Homophobia Blog Hop

  1. That is a great project you're donating to. I'm happy you're doing it! (My email is scarlettknighterotica@gmail.com!)

  2. The "It Gets Better" project is a great cause to support. Young people in crisis need as much support as they can get from ALL of us! qbeeqt@yahoo.com

  3. Wonderful post! Thanks for taking part in the hop :)kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

  4. Great way to support what sounds a great cause.SuzeLittlesuze@hotmail.com

  5. Wonderful post and such a great project to support!albrookeATmeDOTcom

  6. Thank you for offering up such a great prize.I am having a lot of fun reading all the stories and experiences in this blog hop.andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com

  7. Thank you, Thank you for doing so much for such a great cause. grumpybybirth at gmail. com

  8. How awesome of you…what a great cause! raynman1979 at yahoo dot com

  9. Thank you yinyang1062 at yahoo dot com

  10. What a great and generous thing you're doing with the donations…vitajex(at)aol(dot)com

  11. It's wonderful that you are donating to such a great cause. ineedtoread76 [at] gmail.com

  12. A wonderful idea, to donate to It Gets Better. Bullying truly is rampant in so many areas of life…Juliebites@gmail.com

  13. Thanks for participating, and donating to wonderful causes.pantsoffreviews@livedotca

  14. Thanks for sharing, and for spreading such an important message!madison1729@gmail.com

  15. Thank you for participating and for your donations! That was a great idea.

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  17. Great post and I think it's really cool what you're going to donate and I say every little bit helps.melita332002@yahoo.com

  18. Great post, and donations like that are great!red_tigergirl2(at)hotmail(dot)com

  19. You're right, not all of us have to deal with homophobia personally, but all of us can see bullying all around us. It's a tragedy how much of it just goes ignored. Thanks for sharing with us.ashley.vanburena[at]gmail[dot]com

  20. Thanks for bringing bullying to the attention it deserves.cvsimpkins@msn.com

  21. Thanks for all the hard work that you do!Yvetteyratpatrol@aol.com

  22. Thanks for this fantastic post and thank you for joining our blog hop. I am slowly making my way around the whole lot of the participants.normanielsen@bigpond.com

  23. LM, thanks for taking part in the Hop. I'm so amazed by all the heartfelt things people are writing about. Just… wow.

  24. I wish bullying wasn't something we had to fix. I love the It Gets Better project. smurfettev AT gmail DOT com

  25. Wow, a donation of the book to a library is a wonderful thought. I have no idea if there's a copy in an Icelandic library. Ericaeripike at gmail dot com

  26. L.M. Thanks for being so generous with the donation. WAY TO GO! Andyandy@amburns.com

  27. What a great project! Thanks so much for sharing the information and taking part in the hop.~Helenthylacine.yawn@gmail.com

  28. You are right, all bullying is wrong. I was bullied by my cousins. They would laugh at me and make fun and then run away. I was told in later years that they were jealous of what I had and they didn't understand why I was always reading. What stupid reasons for being so mean to a child. But then all "reasons" for bullying are stupid and should reflect badly on the perpetrator.

  29. I'm with you. I guess you could say I was bullied in a way, but we didn't call it that back then. My father had what would now be called an excavating company. I was known as the ditch-digger's daughter.

  30. Yes, bullying is, unfortunately, everywhere. As I've always said to those who care to listen, It all starts at home! Teach your children to be kind and protect those who can't protect themselves and bullying and homophobia will be less and less. But we have too many of the adults who love spewing their antiquated bible believes. Until those people can, by some sort of miracle, be educated, the hope is lessened. Hopefully we can change their son's and daughter's ways of thinking. There is a very interesting study done by a panel of psychologists which Psychology Today published about Homophobics and their secret desires… I hope you'll share it with your readers.http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-big-questions/201106/homophobic-men-most-aroused-gay-male-porn

  31. I love that you would give a book to a school!!! What a wonderful idea! Now I want to do the same thing!!! <3BellabellaLeone4 at gmail dot comwww.bellaleonebooks.com

  32. What a great prize. I love the idea of giving a book to a school of our choice. GERAT!! Thanks for participating in the hop. This is a great cause that I pray one day will not be needed. forettarose@yahoo.com

  33. Wonderful post and I love that you're going to donate a book to a school!! We need books like that in kids' hands to teach them that being different is okay and something to celebrate, not hate of fear.tiger-chick-1 (at) hotmail (dot)

  34. Its a great idea to get supportive books like that into schools! School can be such an awful place if you don't fit into a certain category. burchills@gmail.com

  35. Great idea! Please count me in!moonsurfer123 AT gmail DOT com

  36. Thank you for taking a stand… and what a marvelous idea to donate to a school and a dollar for every comment! Kewl!romancewiththeflemingtons@gmail.com

  37. Wonderful post and great cause to be a part of!!sionedkla@gmail.com

  38. I came across the It Gets Better project with Adam Lambert's video. It doesn't go away, but it gets easier to deal with for most. If only we could make it totally go away. But for now, being friends and being supportive are great ways to help.lina7391(at)hotmail.com

  39. I also mentioned It Gets Better on my post. It's a great project! I also love that you are going to donate toward a book. In our techno babble world we often forget not everyone is connected. Viki

  40. Wonderful post and a great project you're supporting.e.balinski(at)att(dot)net

  41. Thanks for your comment. I didn't realise we had to say why we were participating in this hop… My flash fiction is based partly on truth partly on fiction. And they called me 4 eyes also when I was a kid…

  42. I was bullied as a kid as well and I know how hurtful and how much it can affect your view of yourself, so I support any effort to counter this – and I think the first thing should be never saying that bullying is "phase"!! As you say yourself, it is found everywhere, in all age and social groups, for many reasons so I think this Hop is a great idea to learn about other people, connect people, and spread the word!And I think your idea to donate to the It Gets Better project is fantastic!diall@shaw.ca

  43. So glad I came by and read your post. Donations to the It Gets Better project are a terrific idea. Thanks for being part of the Hop!

  44. Thank you for all that your doing in speaking up and acting against bullying in school and everywhere else for that matter. I have noticed that the older my tolerance for insensitive jerks and bullies has decreased, and I have less patience for its excuses has been tested as well. I was bullied as the chubby 4 eyed girl as well, and soon left the school behavior behind. Having raised our children to speak up and NOT to remain silent when bullies attack others I am so ever glad they have become better people than others that they grew up with. I have gay friends that are more family to me than some of my own relatives, and like many of those I respect the most in the world have created their own families along through the years…*S and I ever so tickled that they have…*S*Awesome that your donating these books to the dear ones who need to know that it does get better…*S*thanks you so much for being part of this amazing event!Darcypommawolf @hotmail.com

  45. What a GREAT Post L. M. & such a Wonderful Project that you are donating to, the 'It Gets Better Project', offering support for victims of bullying on the basis of sexual orientation, such a well-needed cause. I would very much appreciate the opportunity to be considered in your very generous giveaway for a chance to win a copy of the “It Gets Better” Book for My Local US School as well as one of the ebooks you have listed. I would Love to read your eBook, “Between Heaven & Hell”, since I have not purchased that one yet. Thank You for participating in the Hop Against Homophobia.Take care L. M. & Have a Great Weekend, PaParanormalFan Renee paranormalromancefan at yahoo dot com

  46. That was a great post. I love that you are donating an it Gets Better Book to a school. Thank you for participating in the hop.angietate2002@yahoo.com

  47. Thanks for popping past my blog, LG. This was a great hop and yours was a lovely post 🙂

  48. What your doing with the donations is great!peggy1984@live.com

  49. This is a terrific idea–I'm so glad that you're donating and taking an active role like this–I wish I'd thought of it myself! 🙂

  50. It Gets Better is a fantastic charity. Terrific post.

  51. Great post and great idea! ::hugs:: Thanks for participating in the hop!!

  52. Wonderful post and great charity!

  53. What a great idea! I absolutely love it, so here's my boost for the It Gets Better book. I wish all bullied kids could have someone personally tell them that — because it does.Thanks for this. Just awesome.

  54. Thanks for participating in this hop. I'm enjoying all the great blog posts.penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

  55. Great idea LM, Bullying – very nasty in any form.

  56. The winner has been drawn and emailed and I will be making the announcement in a separate blog post this evening (GMT time).I will continue to add up the tally of comments on this post until the weekend. I know a lot of people are still hopping and would like the donation to It Gets Better to be as much as it can be.

  57. I'm sorry I never got here before the hop closed but I wanted to say you're doing a lovely thing by donating to It Gets Better. I donated the proceeds of my YA book Pride & Joy to them and I think it's a fabulous cause.Thanks for participating in the hop and have a great week.*hugs*

  58. I'm sorry I didn't get here before the hop ended but I wanted to stop by. I think it's really great that you're donating to It Gets Better, I love that project. 🙂

  59. Thanks for stopping by. I'm glad you like my donation idea.

  60. I think it is a great project to support. I was torn between several but this one was the one I chose for this year.Thanks for stopping by.

  61. Thanks for coming by. I'm glad you liked the post.

  62. I'm glad you like the idea. Thanks for visiting.

  63. Thanks for coming by. I'm glad you liked the post.

  64. Thanks. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

  65. I'm glad you approve of the prize.I spent all last weekend reading though the posts for the hop and thoroughly enjoyed it, even if a lot of the stories were sad. Thanks for visiting.

  66. Thanks for visiting.

  67. Thanks for stopping by. I'm glad you agree I chose a good cause to support.

  68. Thanks for visiting. Glad you approve.

  69. Thanks for taking the time to come by. It is a good cause and I am sure can do with the help to keep running.

  70. I agree. I was spoilt for choice between all the good causes, but the book for the school/library tipped the scales in this ones favour.

  71. You're welcome. Thanks for stopping by.

  72. Thanks for coming to visit. I'm glad you approve.

  73. I was spoiled for choice with the causes – there are so many good ones out there.Thanks for visiting.

  74. As someone who was bullied in school and in the workplace, I have to agree entirely. It is unnecessary and vile.Thankfully It Gets Better and other projects are there to help the most vulnerable.Thanks for visiting.

  75. Thanks for taking the time to visit and comment.

  76. Thanks for visiting. If you have not already do so, please check your emails. You are the randomly chosen winner!

  77. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like my donation idea.

  78. I totally agree that every bit helps. I just wish it could be more.Thanks for visiting.

  79. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you enjoyed the post.

  80. Thanks for stopping by.

  81. Thanks for coming by.

  82. Thanks for visiting.

  83. It took me all of last weekend to visit all the posts so you have definitely got your work cut out for you. Good luck in making it to them all!Thanks for visiting.

  84. Hi CherieThanks for visiting. I was also stunned by all the posts out there, and so many personal and touching stories.

  85. Me too. Unfortunately I suspect it will always be about in one form or another. Hopefully It Gets Better and other projects can stick around for as long as they are needed.Thanks for commenting.

  86. I'm glad you like the idea of donating the book. I don't know if they ship outside of the US – they don't seem to – but if they continue to grow and flourish perhaps one day it will be in every school that needs it. Thanks for visiting.

  87. Thanks for stopping by. I'm glad you approve of the donation.

  88. Thanks for visiting.

  89. I totally agree. I am lucky that my family never bullied me, though perhaps that is more because they are not living anywhere near where I grew up. At least one of them I suspect might have bullied me if he had the chance. I'm sorry you had to go through that and that the adults in your family didn't put a stop to it.

  90. Bullying can take many forms and I know a lot of kids I knew at school were bullied because they were from mining families. It is uncalled for in any form.

  91. Very good points. Only through education can things improve.Thanks for stopping by and sharing.

  92. Thanks for stopping by. I am glad you liked the idea. There is nothing to stop you doing the same thing. Each book out there has the potential to help teens.

  93. I'm glad you like the idea. Thanks for stopping by. I too hope that one day causes like this will be a thing of the past.

  94. Thanks for visiting. Hopefuly this book will find its way to those who need it and help someone to realise that things do get better.

  95. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like the book donation idea.

  96. Thanks for visiting.

  97. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like my ideas.

  98. I'm glad you liked my post and the cause.Thanks for stopping by.

  99. I don't think I have seen that video. I have heard of Adam Lambert, though he is not very famous over here and I have only heard of him via online sources. Thanks for visiting.

  100. I saw quite a few posts mentioning It Gets Better and other good causes like The Trevor Project. If nothing else it has surely helped to raise awareness for them with the blog hop. I also tend to forget not everyone is online. It Gets Better reminded me of that.Thanks for visiting.

  101. I'm glad you liked the post and the project.Thanks for commenting.

  102. Thanks for visiting. Sorry you also got picked on at school. *hugs*

  103. Hi DianeThanks for visiting and for your thoughts on bullying. Hopefully one day bullying will be stamped out completely and until then projects like It Gets Better need all the support we can give.

  104. Thanks for visiting.I'm glad you like the idea of donating to It Gets Better.

  105. Hi DarcyThanks for visiting and for your thoughts on my post. My tolerance has also waned over the years. I also think it is even worse these days than it was back when I was in school. Teachers today seem afraid to take control of the students and they go through schooling thinking bullying is okay and carry on with it in their adult life.

  106. Thanks for visiting and for your support of the donation to It Gets Better. I'm glad you like my post.

  107. Thanks for visiting. Glad you like the idea of the donation to the school.

  108. Thanks for returning the visit. I'm glad you liked the post.

  109. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like the donation idea.

  110. Well, I can't take credit for the idea completely. I saw someone on the Easter Blog Hop donating per comment to a charity and thought it was a good idea too. Since this is the Hop Against Homophobia I did some research to find a suitable project to donate to and the idea of a book going to a school tipped the scales in this ones favour. Thanks for visiting.

  111. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like the post.

  112. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like the post and the donation idea.

  113. Thanks for visiting. Glad you enjoyed the post.

  114. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like the It Gets Better idea.

  115. Thanks for visiting. I enjoyed visiting all the blogs and reading the posts too.

  116. Thanks for visiting. I totally agree that bullying is nasty no matter how it comes about. I'm glad you like my idea.

  117. Thanks for stopping by and for your comments. That is very generous of you indeed. I will have to check out Pride & Joy myself.

  118. Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you like my donation idea and support It Gets Better.

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